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The Kids Are All Right

Wednesday, August 25th, 2010

What I expected was the sit-comification of a lesbian relationship. What I got was the sit-comification of a lesbian relationship, followed by a sobering and emotionally honest accounting of what happens when one partner in a marriage has an affair.

Hmm.

Given the wisdom and integrity of the second half, why is the first half so bad? Specifically, why does Annette Bening’s character have to be so stereotypically hard-ass? (She’s the rigid, overprotective, driven doctor-mom.) And why can’t Julianne Moore’s character be a mature and articulate adult? (She’s . . . no 50-year-old I’ve ever met.) And why are the jokes predictable and unfunny?

No one ever hires me to clean up her screenplay. Why? Total mystery.

In other news, I read this book. And my review is similar to the above, in that: a) After the dreadful first few chapters, b) the story is surprisingly heartfelt and moving, if never quite spiritually deep. (My mother-in-law*: “Does she get to the point that Victor Frankel discusses, where you look toward making an internal emotional shift in the face of an utter lack of control over your external circumstances?” Me: “Errrr . . . no.”)

I wish Kerman’s editor had helped her revamp her pre-prison story and perhaps shift it to later in the narrative, as a flashback or series of flashbacks. Instead, Kerman powers through her criminal activity without a breath, telescoping to a point of vagueness that feels evasive and rushed. BUT once she gets to prison everything slows down. And we see, of course, that even in a minimum-security prison with a reputation for leniency, life sucks. Abuse, humiliation, ridicule, favoritism, recrimination, etc.

I hate the prison system. I wish it would die and be reborn as a just, compassionate national program of rehabilitation and restitution.

*One of my three mothers-in-law, that is. And as of three weeks ago, they are all totally legal. Fabu!

3 Movies and a TV Show

Friday, August 6th, 2010

1. Have you ever given up on a movie 6 minutes in? Me neither, until Whatever Works. Actually I almost gave up when I saw the director credit, but instead I sat through Larry David’s horrific opening monologue.

Then I FF’ed to minute 7, in which David’s character is having an excruciating and possible-only-in-the-mind-of-Woody-Allen-and-nowhere-in-reality conversation with his wife.

Bloop-bloop! Back to Roku’s Home Menu.

2. Under the Tuscan Sun. I was too ashamed to see this movie in the theater or even on DVD, but Roku, my Roku, light of my life, fire of my loins, okay not really but still, you have changed everything. And I do  love the real estate porn.

However and except. UTS is not so much Real Estate Fantasy as Everything Fantasy, also known as  a heaping pile of horse dung, in which it is possible to mend your broken heart simply by making a bad investment in another country and in which every incident is so highly romanticized that it couldn’t happen to anyone—except, possibly, I realized when making this very assertion to John a couple of days ago, to my dear friend Sarah. (Hi, Sarah!)

Of course, I didn’t stop watching it. Curse you, buttery Tuscan light!

3. Paper Heart. Sweet, cute, and even a little pensive. More than I thought it would be, but still not terribly much. But something. Definitely something.

4. When I read about  BBC America’s series The Choir, I instantly pre-smiled in anticipation of all the tender and triumphant moments we would share. And protagonist Gareth Malone is indeed adorable.

But! He makes painful and arguably unnecessary cuts TWICE during the course of the year, he shames the tenors, and he guilts a kid who makes the seemingly adult decision to leave. No, Gareth, no. UNDO.

Seriously, he lost my trust. If I were a London parent of a public school child, I would not want him at my school, where students already discouraged by their class status (and in some cases poverty) might be further convinced they’re not “winners.” Yuck.

Kindle Me Poor

Tuesday, June 29th, 2010

I don’t entirely get it, but the Kindle has the magic power to enable me to read a 400-page book in two days*. At $9.99 per, I’m going to have a very expensive habit if I don’t supplement with books made up of actual molecules.

Sigh. Nothing is ever the entire solution.

You may quote me.

*I partly get it. I’ve been sick.

1) Life Would Be Perfect if I Lived in that House. This is one of those memoirs that feels like it was written because the author had a contract and needed a topic. I don’t begrudge Daum her real estate and interior design fantasies, as I am infected with a rabid case of same, but she could have captured the entirety of the book’s wisdom in 3000 words.

2) Speaking of authors who have contracts and need topics, Lynne Sharon Schwartz (my grad school advisor!) admits as much in the opening to her new memoir, Not Now, Voyager. Which kind of put me off the book. Which resulted in, perhaps a little too insta-karmically, my not buying it after having downloaded a free sample on the Kindle.

Free Kindle samples, will you kill literature?

3) I can hardly imagine reading Alice Munro on the Kindle—sacrilege! And anyway I had received her newest collection of stories, Too Much Happiness, as a holiday present in December. (Thank you, Barbara.) Oh, the exquisite pleasure of an Alice Munro story! I had read most of them already, whenever they were published in The New Yorker, and as they are capital-L Literature they always improve with repetition.

Munro lays out the emotional complexity of a novel in every story, but her work is never crammed and always patient. It’s the opposite of so much else out there, including Daum, which takes a kernel and attempts to puff it into an entire bowl of popcorn (or some other, better metaphor implying a more substantial end result). In this way Munro is one of the most generous writers ever, possibly on par with Shakespeare in terms of how many characters she is willing to meticulously craft and then release into the world.

I know. Who gets compared to Shakespeare? Like, ever? But I think so. In that way.

Thank you, Alice Munro. You are mind-blowing.

Today’s Tirade

Thursday, May 20th, 2010

This morning after I had finished bitching to John about the intellectual dishonesty, incoherence, anti-feminism, and unacknowledged condescension in the latest issue of Atlantic Monthly, I finished with this: “And that’s today’s tirade.”

“That’s a great name for a blog,” he said.

I know.

For now, it’ll have to suffice as a new category.

Anyway, you can imagine my thrill when the excellent Andi Zeisler of Bitch Magazine decided to weigh in on one of the writers whose Atlantic article I had just read: muddled anti-feminist and pretend-fact maker-upper Caitlin Flanagan. (Hiss.) Zeisler gives Flanagan a well-deserved Douchebag Decree award. Hallelujah!

While I’m tirade-ing, I’d like to give Honorable Douchebag Mention to James Parker for his commentary on Lady Gaga, which while offering some keen insights on Gaga’s style is tonally contemptuous in a way it never acknowledges. Nobody has to like La Gaga—but if you hate her, please explain.

And don’t pretend that fancy-pants cultural critique (of which I’m a fan) protects you from emotional involvement. It doesn’t. [See: Four years at Yale.]

Plus Parker ends with the cheap trick of pronouncing Gaga the “end of pop,” which is so obviously wrong (pop is never over) it can’t be meant to mean anything.

Atlantic Monthly! Writing has to mean something. You can’t just throw a bunch of unconnected and contradictory darts at a board. Or, you can, but that’s dadaism, and it’s not what you’re going for.

New editor, anyone?

Greenberg: Sigh

Wednesday, May 5th, 2010

I guess this puts Noah Baumbach at 1 for 3.

The Squid and the Whale: A paragon of my favorite genre, the dysfunctional family dramedy. Script, mise en scene, directing, acting: everything beautiful and of a piece. A perfect gem.

Margot at the Wedding: Pointlessly dour.

Greenberg: See above and raise it a disturbed, narcissistic protagonist who never wins our sympathies and a dark and damaging romance we keep wishing won’t happen.

Noah, come back. We miss you.

Last night as we left the theater I made the case that so much was right about Greenberg—smart dialogue, marvelous performance by Ben Stiller, relaxed color palette and focus, appealing lack of artifice, unflinching embrace of discomfort—that all Baumbach had to do was make Greenberg even a smidge likable.

“Imagine that we’re rooting for him,” I said to John. “Doesn’t that change everything?”

“Yeah, but Baumbach doesn’t want that,” he said. “He wants to look at someone who isn’t redeeming.”

“So make him a secondary character,” I said. “Otherwise, what’s the point? Nothing matters.”

This morning when we woke up I had this thought: Rachel Getting Married. That’s how to make a movie about an unpredictable addict who has the power to ruin everything. First of all, there are stakes. (Almost nothing is at stake in Greenberg, not even Greenberg, who seems lost beyond recovery.) Second, there are reasons. And third, we care. We really, really care.

“I am unmoved,” said the man behind us as we stood up to leave last night. And then: “It’s the character.”

Yep.

Grumpy Magazine Screed

Wednesday, April 28th, 2010

Why is there only one New Yorker? As in, why is there only one general interest magazine in which the writing is reliably strong and the topics consistently both relevant and entertaining?

I’m always trying to find another. I tried Harper’s for years, but a) they’ve never heard of women; and b) they’re interested almost exclusively in politics and war. It’s pretty astonishing: Every few years, I try another issue, hoping that things have changed. They haven’t.

Just look at the TOC! Bylines are men, men, men. Topics are war, war, war. For the record, I’ll say that I recognize that the world is awash in politics and war, and as a responsible citizen I am supposed to have a basic grasp of same. I do. I get it on NPR.

And given that I’m already doing whatever I’m going to be doing by way of activism (i.e., voting, some emailing, and contributing to causes I care about), I humbly posit that more information entering my already-rattled nervous system isn’t going to improve anything for anyone.

Then there’s the Atlantic, which seems like it should be the answer, but never is. Why is the Atlantic so boring? Why are its articles often incoherent? (Did you read the latest OMG OBESITY ALARMISM cover story? Wha?) Why is its fiction—at least in the latest fiction supplement—so grim? There’s something weird going on in editorial there. Something anti-Melissa-y.

I am a fan of The Sun, with reservations. It’s pretty one-noted. I like that one note, which is deeply felt emotional and personal exploration, usually landing at grief/wonder. But issue after issue of that tends to result in a mega-blur.

And, in addition to mockably titled environmental magazines like Home Power and Earth Island Journal, John gets Wired, which we both read cringe-ingly, absorbing the technolust and corporate cheerleading while sometimes being authentically interested in the topic.

Readers, help me out. Which magazines do you read?

Millennium vs. Greens: No Contest

Tuesday, April 13th, 2010

John’s moms were in SF for the weekend, at a Philosophy of Ed conference, so we joined them for dinner on Saturday and Sunday. First up: Millennium. Second: Greens.

It’s probably not a fair comparison, because the restaurants are doing different things. Millennium may be vegan and Greens vegetarian, but Millennium is much more about the layering of rich, hearty, and pungent flavors with beautifully varying textures, whereas Greens has a much more Chez Panisse-y take on featuring uber-fresh local vegetables in mostly unadorned ways.

Still. As per usual, Millennium shone with some truly breathtaking dishes, whereas nothing I tried at Greens inspired me, except for the raspberry lemonade. And, you know. Lemonade.

Memorable at Millennium: the carrot cake, which featured fluffy patties of cake sandwiched around a creamy center, accompanied by fresh and bright carrot sorbet, a carrot-and-fig compote (divine), and a long drip of caramel down the rectangular plate. John had a tofu curry with scrumptiously flowery accents, less coconut than coconut-jasmine. And I had a juice-mint spritzer that was all the more fantastic for featuring Navarro gewurtztraminer, which you can’t rightly call grape juice, although that’s what it is.

Memorable at Greens: the fact that I paid $23 for an enchilada entree comprising a) mediocre enchiladas with bland flavors b) bare butter beans, and c) a spoonful of acidic slaw. Ew. I am also annoyed that the leek-garlic-manchego potato cakes tasted like masa.

Sigh. I hate to trash Greens. But we can have some more flavor, please?

Surrendering

Sunday, April 11th, 2010

Okay, Chang-Rae Lee. You just lost me.

I made it to page 294, enduring the novel’s relentlessly grim brutality and multiple gruesome tableaux—and engaging in, I admit,  periodic half-guilty skimming—to arrive at two senseless deaths. Fin. I can endure no more.

I hereby add an item to my Literary List of Errors: There can’t be too many tragedies.

I understand that in life, there is no Tragedy Saturation Point. Misery is permitted to pile on without regard for tolerance. But in art, there is a point beyond which additional tragedy, particularly of the violent kind, becomes meaningless. And even, sadly, funny.

Chang-Rae Lee reaches that point on page 294 of The Surrendered.

Why, why, why? These characters don’t have to die—not for the plot, or any other reason I can determine. Where was Lee’s editor? Where was his tuning fork? Where was his bullshit detector?

I issue my cry in the dark.

Surrender: When Do You?

Saturday, April 10th, 2010

When do you give up on a book you don’t like?

It’s been so long since I’ve abandoned a book partway in, I’d forgotten how hard it is. I always worry that I’m missing something by not finishing, or doing a disservice to the author, except in cases where it’s plain the author didn’t invest much herself. (Rare.)

But . . . why suffer?

This week, I’ve already abandoned one book and am on the verge of relinquishing another.

The first, David Whyte’s The Three Marriages, I surrendered at page 105. I love Whyte’s poetry, mainly for its wisdom about being, and I was eager to read this work of nonfiction, in which he sets out to illuminate what he views as our three most important relationships: to a partner, to work, and to the self.

I think I was less shocked by the book’s gender essentialism (Whyte is deeply steeped in classic mythology as well as Victorian literature) than by its incoherence. I mean, it kind of doesn’t make any sense. I don’t even know exactly what Whyte is saying, beyond  a) it’s important to have relationships with a partner, work, and self, and b) a man falling in “love” with a woman at first sight and then whipping up said love into a frothy obsession is somehow not merely literary but also actual and real and right.

I believe the word for that is: claptrap.

The other book, appropriately enough, is The Surrendered, the latest novel by Chang-Rae Lee. I have a complicated relationship with Lee. Here’s why: 1) Aloft: genius. 2) Native Speaker: solidly good. 3) A Gesture Life: frighteningly vague in its moral compass.

I don’t want to sound drama-queeny (okay, I totally do), but I found A Gesture Life, which involves the stories of the so-called “comfort” women in WWII Japan, actually kind of traumatizing. On the one hand, it’s clear that were meant to experience the horror of the military brothels, in which young Korean, Chinese, Japanese, and Philippina women were forced to “service” 10 - 20  men a night.

On the other, the protagonist is a doctor who supposedly shows compassion to the women but meanwhile convinces himself he is in love with one of them (naturally, the “pure,” conventionally beautiful one who is not only a virgin but is also reserved for the head officer and therefore “unsullied” by all that unsightly rape) and then (SPOILER ALERT) ends up having sex with her anyway, when she’s at her most vulnerable.

As if this weren’t enough, we’re also asked to sympathize when, as an older, single man in America, that same doctor adopts a young Korean girl.

It just—how many heebee-jeebees do you have?

So here we are with The Surrendered, and it is also a war novel, and there is plenty of graphic violence and scenes I wish I hadn’t read, already at page 135. Worse, there’s only one character who might be sympathetic, and we left her story a while back.

Time to give up?

Gregoire Fail

Friday, April 9th, 2010

Until Wednesday, I’d never had a disappointing meal at Gregoire. In fact, in the consummate perfection of their potato puffs—mashed potatoes breaded, rolled into mouth-poppable morsels the size of doughnut holes, and deep-fried—they’ve been glowingly consistent.

But, in the immortal words of En Vogue, not this time.

On Wednesday, when my friend Vicky and I went to get our quarterly share of salty, buttery, creamy, deep-fried carbohydrate, we were let down. Because instead of the usual aioli, which is creamy, yes, but—critically—acidic and tangy with vinegar, we were given a different dipping sauce entirely, this one of the creamy-parmesan-pesto variety.

No good. It doesn’t work to dip fried fat into more fat, without any acid to cut the adiposity. It’s too one-noted.

We also had the salad, which is usually a fluffy mess of deliciously fresh baby lettuces and crunchy croutons topped with a creamy vinaigrette. Again, no! There was only one type of lettuce—butter—and the dressing was bland and mustardy.

What happened, Gregoire? Out of vinegar?

In other food fails, we have Trader Joe’s cucumber wontons. Yeah, you read that right. Cucumber. I thought I’d give them a try. Is it ever okay to cook cucumber? Discuss.